Should I Use a Private Investigator Before I go on a Date?

Hire a Private Investigator before your date!

It is not uncommon these days for someone to use a private investigator before they go on a date or start to get in a serious relationship. My daughter recently started to date a guy again that she dated for a short time before realizing that he wasn’t really into her that much. She met this guy through an online dating website. Originally, when they stopped going on dates for the first time, she suspected this guy was interested in another woman. She made the comment that he was probably stringing her along as he tried to figure out which one of them he really wanted to be with. She had no real evidence to support her feelings about the situation, it was just her gut or instincts.

When they started dating again, her mother asked her why she decided to go back out with this guy after sharing her feelings with us about this guy. Her answer was that he really wasn’t seeing anyone else, and it was more in her head. In other words, she was dreaming this other woman up. At the time of this article, my daughter was still dating this guy and we really don’t know where things are going in that relationship yet.

This situation with my daughter had me thinking about the dangers of dating and what we don’t know about people. Here is the reality, my daughter’s gut feeling was probably right about this guy. Naturally my investigative nature kicked in and I told my wife that I would investigate this guy. Maybe he is a good guy! Maybe not? Either way, I wanted to know!

The Risks with Online Dating

Most people choose online dating because it offers convenience. With everyone using social media and with the access to everything through your phone, it seems to be the way the world is going. The problem is there are hidden dangers. Let’s discuss those dangers and how Tactical Investigations can help you eliminate the dangers.

For starters, you can’t gage a person’s personality by a profile. I get it! That is why you go on dates–so that you can get to know that person. That is not the problem. The problem is that everyone lies on those profiles! They must! If you knew all the little dark secrets of their life, you would never go on a date with anyone. Everyone has issues from their past and it is expected that you aren’t going to reveal intimate details of your past with someone you don’t know. At least not right away. Those sorts of folks aren’t too much of an issue. They are not really lying with the intent to do harm. Their motive is self-preservation and not always meant to do harm to you. However, you need to be careful!

What if they are hiding really important details about their background. Like, criminal records or if they are married. Knowing something about a person’s criminal record might tell you if they have a history of abuse in relationships. You probably want to know that before you get too serious or maybe even go on a date at all. This often causes someone to fabricate fake or false social media personas with the intention of presenting an entirely different version of themselves.

More often now I’m hearing stories about the dangers of fake identities where many individuals create false profiles, a practice known as catfishing that is meant to deceive others. Recently I watched a Dateline episode about two young girls who were lured to a location in the woods to meet someone that was using a fake social media profile. Those girls were both murdered! Those same type of stories are all over the internet and present a clear danger to anyone who uses dating sites. Not to mention there are also risks that are associated to stalking or harassment.

Investigate Before you Commit

One of the best practices for you to consider when dating anyone is do your due diligence before making any commitments. Always meet in secure and well populated places in those initial dates. Always trust your gut or instincts. If something feels off–it is!

Using a private investigator like Tactical Investigations before you commit to a dating relationship offers several significant benefits. First, it provides you with a peace of mind—knowing that the person you’re investing in is genuine helps you build trust without fear of deception. Second, it can enhance safety and security by identifying potential red flags, such as a criminal record or hidden marital status, before they become a serious problem. Third, a thorough investigation helps prevent the emotional and financial harm from a bad relationship. Worse, falling victim to scams or abusive people. Finally, by verifying someone’s identity and background, you can establish the foundation for trust and transparency that is essential for a healthy and lasting relationship. Hiring Tactical Investigations is a proactive way to do this.

If you have any questions about how we can help you before you go on a date. Call us at (512) 589-7462.